Services
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Individual coaching is one-on-one work for people who feel stuck, overwhelmed, or like something just isn't working. We'll look at what's actually going on—the patterns keeping you where you are, the stuff you're carrying from the past, the gap between who you are and how you're living. Then we'll figure out what to do about it. You'll leave with real tools and a clearer sense of yourself.
50 mins | $165
80 mins | $265
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Partner coaching is where we figure out why you keep having the same fights and what's actually underneath them. We'll look at your patterns and how you communicate (or don't), what you're really needing from each other, and what old stuff is bleeding into the present. Then we'll work on practical ways to talk to each other, handle conflict, and stop letting the same issues take you down.
50 mins | $185
80 mins | $295
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Polycule coaching is group work for multi-partner relationships that need help with the complicated stuff, communication breakdowns, conflicting needs, unclear boundaries, or just figuring out how to make it all work. We'll tackle the dynamics that are causing friction and build practical skills for navigating conflict, setting boundaries, and actually showing up for each other. Whether you're new to this or trying to untangle years of patterns, this is where you work on it together.
50 min | $205
80 min (recommended) | $325
Why Coaching?
Let’s talk about if coaching might be a good, or better, fit for you and what to actually expect to gain from this work together.
First, what’s the difference between coaching and therapy?
I'm not pretending these are totally separate worlds. My clinical background means I understand emotional patterns, relationship dynamics, and the specific sh*t that queer and neurodivergent folks deal with. I also know when someone needs more support than coaching can provide. If you're in crisis, actively struggling with severe mental health symptoms, or need trauma processing, therapy is the right move and I'll be honest with you about that.
Therapy is designed to treat mental health conditions, things like depression, anxiety disorders, trauma, eating disorders, etc. It often focuses on processing past experiences, healing wounds, and managing symptoms. It's medical treatment, which is why therapists are licensed and can diagnose you.
Therapy is the best option for you if:
You're experiencing severe depression, anxiety, or other mental health symptoms that impact daily functioning
You're dealing with active trauma or PTSD
You're in crisis or having thoughts of self-harm
You need someone who can provide clinical treatment and potentially coordinate with psychiatrists or other medical providers
Coaching is about moving forward. We're not treating mental health conditions or diagnosing anything. Instead, we're focused on who you want to become and what you want your life to look like - whether that's figuring out your identity, navigating relationship dynamics, dealing with career burnout, or building the skills to communicate better with your partner(s).
Coaching with me is right for you if:
You're generally functioning but feel stuck or unfulfilled
You want to explore your identity or values
You're dealing with relationship stuff (including navigating non-monogamy)
You need someone to help you figure out your next move, not just process your feelings
You're tired of being pathologized and want someone who gets that being queer or neurodivergent isn't something to "fix"
Still not sure?
Let's talk about it in a consultation.
What to expect
Neither coaching or therapy change your life in an instant and I will never imply or promise that outcome to clients. Coaching with me is an investment in yourself, your relationship(s), and your future. It takes effort and intentionality to create change and it is my job here to not only help you sort through what you want to change but also strengthen what is already working so that you feel more motivated, encouraged, and clear-headed about what direction your life is taking.
This is all about reclaiming agency. I want you to feel more regulated and confident, even on the bad days (and there will be bad days). We achieve this by reorienting you towards your core values and using those as a guidepost for accomplishing goals you set for yourself.
A session together might look like planning out the next few months to manage work and life balance, or exploring relational patterns in conflict that are damaging your relationship, or perhaps not-so-simply, doing the dishes so that you can un-stuck your executive functioning.
This isn't just venting. We'll absolutely talk through your feelings and experiences, but the goal is always movement. I'll challenge you, ask uncomfortable questions, and hold you accountable to the changes you say you want to make. I'm supportive as hell, but I'm not here to just validate everything you do (unlike ChatGPT).
I have heard a lot of clients complain about feeling ‘stuck’ in therapy. I could write an entire book on why I think this is but it comes down to a few things: 1. expecting change to be easy and quick, 2. avoiding talking about the real sh*t, 3. lack of an actionable plan to move forward.
If you’re ready to break old patterns and get to the core of what’s holding you back, coaching with me can be a great option. We will work together and make moves towards changing what needs to change so that more of the good sh*t comes through.
Let’s move forward not just talk about the past.
“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.”
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
Virtual Coaching Sessions
Ready to start? Reach out to schedule a consultation!
elliot@neurospacecoaching.com
804-372-3593
